Home Stretch: Parenting Kids from 16-21dirt track date -- Saturday, February 22, 2003 -- 06:38:39 PM
I thought this subject deserved its own thread because I have learned so much, and enjoyed reading so much, stories from TPW'ers getting their kids ready to leave home. I've NOT enjoyed the FAFSA stories, but I hope to learn more about the perils of applying for college.
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I love their paypal link! I told my daughter about it this morning and she too was very impressed.
I was telling my 16 year old about dtd's son's app. Neither of us knew what SOPA was, so he looked it up. He read most of the statute, and we talked about the various provisions, what was a good idea and what needed work.
I'm really proud of him for doing his own research, going right to the source, and doing some informed, independent thinking to form his own opinion.
J. has secured a paying internship for next summer! She'll be working with a DC firm that specializes in economic research for litigation. She is thrilled. This follows anxious days of rejected applications and interviews that didn't go very well. She was convinced that she'd never find anything.
Good for her, Marsie!
It's touch, I know. My daughter has been looking at lots of opportunities, and ... nada. Something will turn up, Wilma.
I really need someone to talk me down- he's so angry at us- just nasty because after paying for his collge expenses in full (he has no loans at all) and he's going to Germany next year for junor year abroad (again at our expense)- we won't shell out 8,000 for a summer program. Spoiled brat. He is working on campus this year- 3 jobs actually- help desk, working on the website for the marketing department and a compute lab assistant. He's not lazy. And then I find myself saying well, maybe (only to myself) because he is so disappointed and frustrated and then I catch myself.
Wilma...that is frustrating for both of you. (Not that I blame you!!!) How would you or he feel about a student loan for that?
Also, I would seriously check out the program because that sounds off.
That's a pretty amazing sense of entitlement seeing as he's got no loans AND is going to Germany for his junior year on your dime. I'd be pissed! I don't blame him for wanting to go, but there's no way in hell I'd tolerate that kind of nastiness. You're a better person than I am. I'd have scorched the earth around him with the flames shooting out of my eyeballs. He might be working hard, and that's great, but the deal isn't "I work hard, you pay for whatever the f I want to do, no matter how unreasonable and expensive it may be". Are you also providing a car for him? Because $8000 would also buy a hell of a nice used car.
Actually, most internship programs abroad can be very expensive to participate in. We used to offer a competitive travel grant specifically for students who were wanting to intern abroad. So, if he is onsidering a program abroad, ask them what you get for your money, i.e. do they help with the visa process, do they offer housing or at least have a list of preferred housing options, will someone meet him at the airport/train station, etc. You don't want him just dropped in the middle of a country with no language skills. He can also do an internship in Germany in conjunction with his studies abroad. Since he is already going overseas, I would strongly urge him to look into that, rather than going to China in the summer. Many of the study abroad programs will have some information on how to combine both study and internships.
We try to vet the Chinese internships very closely. It is very difficult to get into China and can be equally difficult to get out if the internship doesn't pan out the way the student had hoped.
A very good internship organization for these sorts of things, especially engineering (and computer science can sometimes come under this heading) is International Cooperative Education out of Menlo Park, CA (ICE Menlo). We have worked with them for years and Gunter and his wife travel the world looking for internship for kids, many of them are paid internships. They do have fees of a couple thousand dollars, but they vet their companies very carefully, many of their internships are paid, they do offer help in finding housing and often have someone meeting the student upon arrival.
Thanks ciao- I did some investigating and after the initial shock- it's not badly priced- they provide housing, visa assitance, some language training, some trips, pick up at airport, transportation to work site, breakdast each day. It's just too much money- or more than I am willing to spend. I thought about bringing up a student loan option- but I figure he can figure that out himself.